Tricky Truth or Compassionate Speak

Truth is tricky! We know that truth without compassion is brutality. Truth without compassion is another form of violence. It’s a lot of  yakkity yak and when it’s said without compassion it is normally filled with assumptions and judgment. Today, that kind of  “truth”  is rampant. It fills our newspapers, magazines and TV and is…

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A Value Driven Life

One of the new thought phrases we often hear, is that we should be living a purpose driven life, but what does that mean?  How does one decide on a purpose, fulfill a purpose and create a purpose driven life?  I think it might be simpler than we think.  What’s under a purpose driven life?…

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Embrace it All

In my twenties, while siting in an old Italian restaurant, I noticed a couple of people wandering around from table to table. One was selling roses and the other a fortune teller, dressed as a gypsy, who eventually approached our table. She quietly saddled up beside each of us and when she got to me,…

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Words

Words My mother was an alcoholic. Until the day she died, no, even long after, the words spinning in my head were wonderings about what a can of Coors offered her that I could not. There are certain experiences and certain words in life that humble you. They bring you suddenly alive, albeit with regret,…

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One Job To Do

Question: It never occurred to me that getting sober would come with huge fundamental questions about who I am and what are my responsibilities to everyone else! How do I determine what responsibilities are really mine and which are not? Let’s simplify these issues. You have only one job and that is to find out…

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Love Is…

I have never really believed that you fall in love instantly. You could conceivable fall into lust, or trip mindlessly into passion – but love, real love, takes time – like cooking the perfect soufflé. Love creeps gently into your insides when you glance her way and see the sun gently reflecting off locks of…

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I’m Right. You’re Wrong.

Do you ever feel as if the people in your life live on a different planet and have a different reality than you do? Why can’t they get it? Why can’t they see it? Why can’t they understand your side of things? This affliction plagues most couples who come to my office for counseling. I…

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Half Baked Truth

Is truth in the eye of the beholder or is the beholder half-baking the truth? Can there really be many perspectives of the same truth; yours, mine and the objective truth or reality? Today, we embrace being a victim more than we embrace truth. We had no choice but to bomb Iraq.  I wouldn’t be…

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