Listening to the In Between

Therapists are taught to listen, mostly to the in-between where the truth is, in what is not said, in body language, in facial expressions, in hesitation, discomfort and sometimes even obvious lies.  We are taught to listen differently in ways that could benefit all...

Are You Here Yet?

I recently talked to a person who had 700 friends on Facebook, friends to whom she told everything, in vivid detail, …daily. Before I knew they “Were the center of her life,” I blabbed on about how we don’t really connect with each other any more and how...

Bound to Happen or Bad Rap?

There is something magnificent about the back of a woman’s neck or the gentle sloping curve of her hip – or his. There’s a certain kind of splendor to silk slipping sensuously off a shoulder and yet, even these delectable delights are not the makings of real intimacy...

Ten Ways to Improve Your Relationship in 2007

It’s what we say we want. It’s what we long for before it arrives. We daydream about it, imagine it, visualize it, pray for it and then when it finally comes…we ignore it and give it the least attention. Time to tune up your love life. Here are ten ways to kick up the...

To Be or Not to Be In a Relationship

Are relationships worth all the trouble? Absolutely! They are the greatest teachers on the planet. Where else can you learn to break open your heart, see what your capacity to love is, test your need for control or sameness and learn cooperative balance?  That balance...