We are living in extraordinary times. We have young people and older people marching side-by-side for women’s rights, for educational funding, for LGBT rights, for fair wages, for sexual abuse issues, for drug abuse and the mis-use of power. Today, we are really standing up, but I am still worried. I know it’s different now,…
Continue ReadingAt age seventy-five, every moment spent with my children, grandchildren and great grandchildren is a holy moment, not to be squandered. The other day, while going to the store, my granddaughter was on her cell phone texting. I said, “Sweetie you are important to me and every moment we have together now is precious. Do…
Continue ReadingTruth is tricky! We know that truth without compassion is brutality. Truth without compassion is another form of violence. It’s a lot of yakkity yak and when it’s said without compassion it is normally filled with assumptions and judgment. Today, that kind of “truth” is rampant. It fills our newspapers, magazines and TV and is…
Continue ReadingI love the idea of changing the form of relationships without losing the love. I have walked couples through it so I know it is doable when two emotionally mature people commit to the process. However, I can’t help wondering if our relationships were more conscious to start with, would we have to uncouple? So…
Continue ReadingWords My mother was an alcoholic. Until the day she died, no, even long after, the words spinning in my head were wonderings about what a can of Coors offered her that I could not. There are certain experiences and certain words in life that humble you. They bring you suddenly alive, albeit with regret,…
Continue ReadingLet’s do lunch. Can’t wait to see you again. You look maavalous! You losing weight? I’ve been meaning to call you. I never got that message. Shall we continue with 900 more ways to blow off real connections and honest communication? It’s all a lot of yakkity yak. Real communication, or enlightened communication, is about…
Continue ReadingQuestion: I believe my partner is using and lying about it! She has requested we go to therapy together and I have told her that I think this is her problem. Shouldn’t she just go alone? I imagine some people would like to hear me say is that this is all your wife’s fault, and…
Continue ReadingA reader called the other day to say, “ Every time my husband and I go out to meet new people or to attend a family affair, he inevitable brings up every gory detail my past when I was drinking. Something feels really wrong with this, but I don’t know what it is since I…
Continue ReadingI often imagine the man from the Verizon commercial bursting through my office door wearing a red cape, interrupting some argumentative couple in a heated battle and shouting, “Can you hear me now?” The answer would be, “No.” We don’t hear each other and this is often a major factor in separations and divorces, in…
Continue ReadingMost of us skate over the top of life. We avoid real issues, detour out of heavy places and live a short distance from our true feelings and spirit. The gold in life is always at the point of connection – to ourselves, to others and to Spirit. We have been taught to think our…
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