Keeping It Real

At age seventy-five, every moment spent with my children, grandchildren and great grandchildren is a holy moment, not to be squandered.  The other day, while going to the store, my granddaughter was on her cell phone texting. I said, “Sweetie you are important to me and every moment we have together now is precious. Do…

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Tricky Truth or Compassionate Speak

Truth is tricky! We know that truth without compassion is brutality. Truth without compassion is another form of violence. It’s a lot of  yakkity yak and when it’s said without compassion it is normally filled with assumptions and judgment. Today, that kind of  “truth”  is rampant. It fills our newspapers, magazines and TV and is…

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Words

Words My mother was an alcoholic. Until the day she died, no, even long after, the words spinning in my head were wonderings about what a can of Coors offered her that I could not. There are certain experiences and certain words in life that humble you. They bring you suddenly alive, albeit with regret,…

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Yakkity Yak

Let’s do lunch. Can’t wait to see you again. You look maavalous! You losing weight? I’ve been meaning to call you. I never got that message. Shall we continue with 900 more ways to blow off real connections and honest communication? It’s all a lot of yakkity yak. Real communication, or enlightened communication, is about…

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Tell Me the Truth Or Else!

Question: I believe my partner is using and lying about it! She has requested we go to therapy together and I have told her that I think this is her problem. Shouldn’t she just go alone? I imagine some people would like to hear me say is that this is all your wife’s fault, and…

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The Power of Your Words

A reader called the other day to say, “ Every time my husband and I go out to meet new people or to attend a family affair, he inevitable brings up every gory detail my past when I was drinking. Something feels really wrong with this, but I don’t know what it is since I…

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Can You Hear Me Now?

I often imagine the man from the Verizon commercial bursting through my office door wearing a red cape, interrupting some argumentative couple in a heated battle and shouting, “Can you hear me now?” The answer would be, “No.” We don’t hear each other and this is often a major factor in separations and divorces, in…

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Let’s Go Deeper?

Most of us skate over the top of life. We avoid real issues, detour out of heavy places and live a short distance from our true feelings and spirit. The gold in life is always at the point of connection – to ourselves, to others and to Spirit. We have been taught to think our…

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