The Subtle Side of Domestic Violence

There is no doubt that violence against women and children – your moms, your sisters, and your friends – is the fastest rising best-hidden crime in America today. This issue has taken such a back seat that we don’t even have current estimates of the numbers of cases. Estimates from 2001, range from 960,000 incidents…

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Is Being Best, Best?

More is better. Perfection is the only acceptable goal. Bigger is best. Enough is never enough. When did true nobility become about beating everyone else instead of being better than you used to be? The constant comparisons, unrealistic desire for perfection and unattainable pressure to have the perfect body and succeed at everything is causing…

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Dancing with the Dark Side

The feelings that you hate and hide are also your key to enlightenment. They are the key to an empowered life, richness and a sense of fulfillment. Grief, fear, hatred, despair, loneliness, jealousy, and pain are the feelings we deny and run from. Most of us find them disturbing and when we push them into…

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Gender Equality – Everyone’s Issue

I was stunned! I have worked for women’s rights for the majority of my life, I walked precincts, gathered votes, written letters and fasted 37 days on water for the Equal Rights Amendment in Springfield Ill, in 1982, and I still, had no idea about the enormity and current impact of this issue. The results…

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Hiding Behind Mom and Dad!

When I was eleven, my parents announced they were divorcing. I was not surprised, but I was devastated. The only adult in my home, my Dad, who was not an alcoholic, was leaving. I left at thirteen, just two years later, so that I would not be swallowed alive by my mother’s beer bottles. Each…

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Responsibility

Question: It never occurred to me that getting sober would come with huge fundamental questions about who I am and what are my responsibilities to everyone else! How do I determine what responsibilities are really mine and which are not? Let’s simplify these issues. You have only one job and that is to find out…

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Wherever You Are…

Last night my granddaughter Brianne took me to a Def Jam poetry reading in a small strip mall, in a dark room painted red and black with one restroom that worked occasionally. The room was mostly filled with African-American brothers and sisters, a Hispanic or two – and me – the only one white as…

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