Dancing with the Dark Side

The feelings that you hate and hide are also your key to enlightenment. They are the key to an empowered life, richness and a sense of fulfillment. Grief, fear, hatred, despair, loneliness, jealousy, and pain are the feelings we deny and run from. Most of us find them disturbing and when we push them into…

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Gender Equality – Everyone’s Issue

I was stunned! I have worked for women’s rights for the majority of my life, I walked precincts, gathered votes, written letters and fasted 37 days on water for the Equal Rights Amendment in Springfield Ill, in 1982, and I still, had no idea about the enormity and current impact of this issue. The results…

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Hiding Behind Mom and Dad!

When I was eleven, my parents announced they were divorcing. I was not surprised, but I was devastated. The only adult in my home, my Dad, who was not an alcoholic, was leaving. I left at thirteen, just two years later, so that I would not be swallowed alive by my mother’s beer bottles. Each…

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Responsibility

Question: It never occurred to me that getting sober would come with huge fundamental questions about who I am and what are my responsibilities to everyone else! How do I determine what responsibilities are really mine and which are not? Let’s simplify these issues. You have only one job and that is to find out…

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Wherever You Are…

Last night my granddaughter Brianne took me to a Def Jam poetry reading in a small strip mall, in a dark room painted red and black with one restroom that worked occasionally. The room was mostly filled with African-American brothers and sisters, a Hispanic or two – and me – the only one white as…

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What Love Is…

What Love is… Deborah Anapol, Ph.D. says, “Love is force of nature. No matter how much we want to, we cannot demand, command or disappear love” It’s true, you can’t make someone love you and you can’t really stop them either. I do believe however you can create love. Love is the most powerful force…

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Unexpected Gifts

Unexpected Gifts Life happens between miracles, in the midst of miracles and after miracles… even in difficult times. I took a long time to realize that there is a consequence to every choice in life. Every choice in life is either for aliveness or death. No punishment. No reward, just the consequences of each choice….

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Words

Words My mother was an alcoholic. Until the day she died, no, even long after, the words spinning in my head were wonderings about what a can of Coors offered her that I could not. There are certain experiences and certain words in life that humble you. They bring you suddenly alive, albeit with regret,…

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The Change Table

Come to the Change Table In the time it takes to read this column, approximately four billion five hundred million cells have died and been replaced in your body. Metathesiophobia is a phobia for fear of change. We are afflicted by it. We may have difficulty pronouncing the word, but we have more difficulty, even…

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Just One Person

Just One Person Earnest Holmes once said, “Find me one person who can get his own littleness out of the way and he shall reveal to me the immeasurable magnitude of the Universe in which I live.” This is the challenge of our lives today, to step aside out of our own littleness and step…

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