Whether we are aware of it or not, we
all have opportunities to create turning points in
our lives. Too often, we wait for life to tap us on
the shoulder and say, “ Hi there, here’s
your opportunity to make life different for yourself." It
doesn’t work that way. Each moment, of every
day, we make decisions for ourselves that have either
consequences or benefits. Life, God, or Spirit has
no investment on what you choose for yourself. That
energy, whatever you may perceive it to be, simply
assumes that you need the lesson you have chosen and
it allows it. It is up to each of us to make the choices
that change the quality of our lives.
You and I are in charge of creating our own turning points. No matter how long
we search for those certain people who will make us feel lovable or worthy of
existing, they are no where to be found. We wouldn’t believe them anyway,
if the truth were known. No matter how many times we pray for life to give us
a break, it doesn’t. No matter how intensely we might want to hit the jackpot,
win the lottery or find a Wells Fargo moneybag on the side of the road, it almost
never happens. Why? Because the truth is, we are the ones in charge of creating
our own realty with every choice we make. If all of our energy goes into wanting
and waiting for these things, then wanting and waiting is what continues to manifest.
When we begin making decisions that are self-loving, life gets easier, better.
I once had a client who spent her entire life and all of her energy looking for
the one person who would stay in her life and make her feel worthy and lovable.
If only one person did that, she thought, then it would be proof that her mother’s
messages about her lack of worth would be proven wrong. Not once did it ever
occur to her that the person she was seeking was her own self. At any given moment
she could change her mind about her mothers messages and begin to treat herself
as a worthy person, deserving of love, who would not for a moment tolerate people
in her life who would abandoned her. The power is inside of us - not out there.
Some of the ways that you create turning points for yourself are:
Choose
to give your focus and energy to only that
which you desire, not that which
you fear
Be aware of how much energy you expend on circumstances
you cannot change
Speak
with Integrity. Select your words carefully
and empower only that which is
truthful, positive and loving
Don’t take anything personally. Understand that each person in your
life acts from his or her own life experience and personal reference point.
None of
it is about you
Avoid chaos, deception and people who drain
your energy with self-created drama
Find the safety inside yourself necessary to
embrace change and the fluidity of
life.
Seek
to understand the ways in which we are united,
rather than, the ways in
which
we are different
Develop
a respect and reverence for all forms of life,
even those who are still
evolving at their own pace and in their own way, including
you.
Take risks in order to find your own strength
of Spirit.
Respect
the right of each person, yourself as well,
to learn his or her own lesson
at
his or her own pace.
Embrace the possibility that you can trust
whatever you perceive God to be.
Forfeit being right and choose being love.
Release
the need to control, and make a space for Divine
energy to
work through
you and on your behalf.
Take a breath and let your heart be at peace,
often
Turn
around and face that one heinous thing you
feel is an
inherent part
of you
that makes you bad. When you
find it does not exist, stop
punishing
yourself.
Dare
to believe that the mistakes you have made
came from a lack
of tools, rather
than a lack of humanity
Decide
to stop wasting time and life on guilt, shame
or the messages from your
parents and do something
to contribute to humanity
And most of all, if you are blessed with conscious
awareness,
dare to be different. ?
Act on what
you know
At any given moment, in any given circumstance, there
is an opportunity to step into the greatest of who
we are - there is a turning point. Turning points are
available to us with every breath and in every interaction.
We only need to find the courage to step into them.
As the Sufi's say, You have already arrived with the
very first step. Take it.
Dr. Dina Bachelor Evan - Coaching
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