The SRQ:
Spiritual Relationship Quotient


Ideally, everyone would connect with their Right Mate, but that's not usually how it works, at this time. Finding the right mate/partner requires that we know ourselves well enough to know what, and who, is right for us. That's what personal spiritual growth is focused on, and that's what we're here to help you with.

There are four sections below which are designed to assist you in evaluating yourself, your partner, and your relationship, as a couple, including ten questions to help you determine where you might want to make changes. Honesty counts, so be as non-judgmental as possible in your responses. If you find it helpful, go ahead and print out this quiz for future reference.

 Evaluating The Relationship  

We are accepting of each other's differences
A
B
C
D
F
We contain and express anger safely
A
B
C
D
F
We share at deep intimate levels
A
B
C
D
F
We cooperate/share household tasks
A
B
C
D
F
We agree on integrity and principle issues
A
B
C
D
F
We agree on financial issues
A
B
C
D
F
We enjoy being alone together
A
B
C
D
F
We encourage independence and separate time
A
B
C
D
F
We encourage the fulfillment of individual goals
A
B
C
D
F
We share spiritual awarenesses/activities
A
B
C
D
F
Participate in mutual spiritual growth activities
A
B
C
D
F
We take time for each other as priority
A
B
C
D
F
We are comfortable with silence/not doing
A
B
C
D
F
Our relationship is sexually satisfying
A
B
C
D
F
Our relationship is emotionally satisfying
A
B
C
D
F
We celebrate special occasions without stress
A
B
C
D
F
We take risks in sharing our feelings
A
B
C
D
F
We face and discuss disappointments together
A
B
C
D
F
We yield willingly to each other
A
B
C
D
F
We are not threatened if we feel differently
A
B
C
D
F
Taking space is never a problem
A
B
C
D
F
People feel they can come to us for support
A
B
C
D
F
We are openly affectionate
A
B
C
D
F
We each take responsibility for our own health
A
B
C
D
F
Take individual responsibility for own happiness
A
B
C
D
F

 Evaluating My Partner  

Offers help with responsibilities
A
B
C
D
F
Is willing to yield control/decision making power
A
B
C
D
F
Is emotionally connected to me/relationship
A
B
C
D
F
Offers suggestions without criticism
A
B
C
D
F
Is faithful emotionally/sexually
A
B
C
D
F
Is dependable and stable
A
B
C
D
F
Gives me space when I need it
A
B
C
D
F
Is not jealous or suspicious
A
B
C
D
F
Laughs with me/ Has sense of humor
A
B
C
D
F
Gives sincere, authentic compliments
A
B
C
D
F
Honors our confidentiality
A
B
C
D
F
Listens well. Is energetically connected.
A
B
C
D
F
Is sexually responsive and attentive
A
B
C
D
F
Is verbally kind hearted/ affectionate
A
B
C
D
F
Offers the kind of support I need
A
B
C
D
F
Makes me feel loved/ appreciated
A
B
C
D
F
Makes me/ relationship a priority
A
B
C
D
F
Embraces family rituals/ responsibilities
A
B
C
D
F
Is committed to spiritual growth
A
B
C
D
F
Compromises/negotiates when we disagree
A
B
C
D
F
Does not use control, manipulation, shaming
A
B
C
D
F
Is committed to on-going emotional growth
A
B
C
D
F
Can apologize/ Own mistakes
A
B
C
D
F
Enjoys emotional, spiritual intimacy
A
B
C
D
F
Does not use substance or anger to distance
A
B
C
D
F

 Evaluating Myself  

I often offer to help
A
B
C
D
F
I am willing to yield control/decision making
A
B
C
D
F
I am emotionally connected to mate /relationship
A
B
C
D
F
I offer suggestions without criticism
A
B
C
D
F
I am faithful emotionally/sexually
A
B
C
D
F
I am dependable and stable
A
B
C
D
F
I give mate space when s/he needs it
A
B
C
D
F
I am not jealous or suspicious
A
B
C
D
F
I laugh/ I have sense of humor
A
B
C
D
F
I share spiritual awarenesses
A
B
C
D
F
I suggest mutual spiritual growth activities
A
B
C
D
F
I honor our confidentiality
A
B
C
D
F
I am comfortable with silence/not doing
A
B
C
D
F
I am sexually responsive/giving
A
B
C
D
F
I offer the kind of support needed
A
B
C
D
F
I make relationship a priority
A
B
C
D
F
I embrace family rituals/ responsibilities
A
B
C
D
F
I face and discuss disappointments/feelings
A
B
C
D
F
I am committed to spiritual growth
A
B
C
D
F
I am not threatened if we feel differently
A
B
C
D
F
I can apologize/Own my mistakes
A
B
C
D
F
I am committed to on-going emotional growth
A
B
C
D
F
I am openly affectionate
A
B
C
D
F
I do not use control, manipulation, shaming
A
B
C
D
F
I do not use substance or anger to distance
A
B
C
D
F

 Steps I Can Take to Create a More Conscious Relationship  

How I can become more open-minded?

How I can begin working on my own fear and issues?

How I can demonstrate trust for myself and my partner?

How I can stop the self-defeating patterns of my family of origin?

How I can begin a shared spiritual process?

How I can begin to deepen communication?

How I can establish or reestablish trust?

How I can demonstrate deeper appreciation?

How I can kindly establish healthier boundaries?

How I can find new ways to expess my love?


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